‘How to rape a woman’: Searching for porn, ending up here

By — January 8, 2014

Sometimes I look at the Google Analytics for this site. Usually while I’m doing research or working on our social media, I’ll click over to a window I have open and see who is on the site right now—what countries they’re reading from, what stories they’ve landed on, and, sometimes, what words they searched to get to our project. It’s pretty interesting overall.

Since WMC’s Women Under Siege launched in February 2012, I’ve had my eye on these stats and more often than not as I click over to the page on my desktop something startles me. Sometimes it’s that someone has been searching “are women to blame for rape”? This always makes me sad because I wonder if the reader is a woman who has been raped and, well, blamed for it. I always hope she finds some solace on our site that yes, women are blamed, but no, they should not be criminalized for being brutalized. However, more often than not, it’s a far darker kind of search that halts my work.

For instance, the other day, someone got to our site from Johannesburg, South Africa, by searching “how to open the legs of a women when raping her.”

They were reading this.

At this point I realized it was time to share what else people around the world have been searching for before they (likely unassumingly) land on a journalism project about sexualized violence instead of a porn site.

I took a look through the keywords people used to get here over the past two months and sorted some of the more explicit ones into a few categories. Maybe you’ll agree with these categories. Maybe you’ll think there’s more fantasy to these ideas (on behalf of men or women) than experience. What matters, I think, is that this is what is in so many people’s minds on a daily basis—these are things they can contain only to the point of seeking more information on the Internet. Barely contained ideas or impulses, basically.

Perpetrators are looking to know more about “how to rape a woman.”

Fantasists want to see things I cannot even begin to imagine such as something called “Congo real extreme rape tube.” When this is what is happening to women in the Democratic Republic of Congo.

Survivors are seeking stories to accompany them through a lonely evening thinking about how “I was forced to marry him, but he rapes me every night.” Maybe they are looking for fellow survivors who like them were “not allowed to cry during rape.”

I always wonder if these survivors find comfort in the stories they read here. I always wonder if the perpetrators seeking advice learn something. I always wonder if the fantasists find exactly what they are seeking when they land on this page—which is usually what they land on—which gives first-person testimonies of women who’ve been raped in conflict. Somehow, I doubt “learning” is part of the process for these last two groups of people. I think “getting off” is likely more what they experience. And yet we keep writing, as if in a chant that resonates on who-knows-anymore what frequency:

Rape is not sex.

Sex is not rape.

Stopping would be worse than repetition, wouldn’t it?

 

Here are the keywords, briefly sorted, mainly uncorrected:

Fantasies:

Stories of woman been raped by repairer  

females stripped, spread-eagled and tortured

young women’s breasts tortured with spikes

Chinese tied down to boards tables repeatedly gang raped by lots of men

choking videos in Syria girls forced to have sex

clothed women legs spread apart

Congo real extreme rape tube

cute Asian girl chained up and raped molested.com

fantasy gang rape in the jungle

girls raped shouting for mercy

hardcore rape videos from the Holocaust

naked women tied up and tortured

nasty whores getting brutally raped hard

small girl from Congo in side the bag sex you tube

stories of girls being dragged in the woods and getting raped in all there holes

 

How to:

how to open the legs of a women when raping her

Sexualized tips

how to rape a woman

can a slut have consecutive gang bang?

 

Potentially personal experience:

I was raped by soldiers

I was not allowed to cry during rape

all the men took it turns in raping me I was a kid

aunty raped in front of me

describe words that say how my day to day life is affected due to being raped

my husband want sex three times a day and if I refuse he will beat me and rape me

all the men took it turns in raping me I was a kid

forced to strip off clothes by daddy and his mates and they filmed it

he held me down, forced my legs open, raped and came inside me

he pointed a gun on me and raped me

how my husband beats me up, ties me, and rapes me everyday

I was forced to marry him, but he rapes me every night

my father comes drunk and rapes me the whole night

my husband made me watch him rape a woman

my husband forced sex on first night

my husband raped me and said that it was his right

my neighbor saw me having sex with my husband and now he raped me

my wife was raped in front of me

my wife was raped during girls night out

they broke into our house yanked my husband of me and raped me

 

Unclear (Fantasy? Experience?):

man forced a child to remove her clothes

I fucked a prisoner before she was executed